Bewildered was the woman whose husband failed to pick up her medication when he picked up his own, even though sheíd been doing it for seven years.

No wonder she was bewildered. I suggested several possible reasons for his behavior, everything from him wanting her dead to being distracted by his girlfriendís pregnancy.

Hereís what you had to say.

CHAZ: He was thinking that every time his wife is running low on pills, she calls the doctor. He was thinking that if she needed pills, then she must have called the doctor. If she didnít, then she didnít need pills.

(CHAZ: Nice try. They both ran out of pills at the same time every month!)

RICH: I would say he was having a senior moment or wasnít thinking or was distracted because he owes the mob money. Any time I mess up, any or all three could apply!

WILL: Wow! No offense, Cheryl, but what a typical female response! News flash: Women go through menopause, and men go through changes, too!

Thereís got to be at least one male physician out there who can come up with a medical name ó something thatís acceptable and catchy ó to justify our changing behavior.

(How about male pattern obliviousness?)

ALICIA: Bewilderedís husband was thinking his usual selfish, self-centered thoughts, which he had apparently succeeded in hiding (partially or completely) from his wife before. Or heís such a stick in the mud ó and maybe not too bright ó that when his usual routine was altered slightly, he didnít know what to do, so he did the unthinkable.

EVE: He probably had someone else call who didnít know that Bewildered usually ordered pills for both of them.

(This would be a great excuse if Bewilderedís husband had a secretary who made his calls. He doesnít.)

DELTA: He wasnít thinking anything. Men are not natural caregivers. Thatís why so few of them are moms! Several years ago, I was laid up after surgery. My husband cared for me for several days, doing whatever I asked of him.

On the first day he went back to work, he arrived home late with takeout for dinner. No food for me. All Iíd eaten that day was a granola bar because that was all the food heíd left within my reach. He was stupefied by how incredibly hurt and angry I was.

My husband is the kindest, most generous and most patient person I know. He is a true blessing to me in many ways. If I asked him to jump off the roof for me, he would gladly do it. It just would never occur to him to do it without being asked.

Most guys arenít malicious jerks. They just arenít wired to think of others first. Instead of getting hurt by that kind of behavior, I chalk it up to cluelessness and remember to state my needs more clearly next time!

(DELTA: Iím in awe of you! Youíre the most understanding woman Iíve ever heard of! Most women would have slugged the guy over the head with whatever they could reach!)

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